Many of us spend our entire lives searching for that one specific life purpose when in actuality you are here for many reasons, it's not really fair to limit your potential to just one skill, but you know, we all have that one thing that we dedicate most of our time doing, dreaming about making it big one day, and that's why when our biggest critics pop into our lives it can devastate us to the point where we start to question our creative ability.

In actuality, we have six ears.

We humans have an immense appetite for complicated things, neuroscience, astrophysics and molecular biology of course, but also barely decipherable books, abstract works of art and avant-garde pieces of theatre without plot or character, all of which perhaps evoke the primordial puzzles of the universe and our own always ineffable existence within it. But our veneration for complexity can reach a most painful, time-consuming and futile zenith in one area in particular – relationships. It's here that we find otherwise discerning and hard-headed people exhibiting extreme patience, often lasting over a succession of tormented years, for what we can call complicated situations. The complexities may arise from some of the following dynamics. A beloved partner who wants to commit and surely will one day but not quite yet on account of this or that factor or not entirely because of certain psychological fears or not conclusively or at least not without certain important caveats. They may need space, freedom or what they call a chance to explore though quite what was still not wholly clear, though we have asked them on many occasions. Then a partner with whom there are a lot of misunderstandings, around whom words often lose their standard meanings, around whom we may have to spend hours untangling what was truly meant and around whom gestures or deeds that we previously thought uncontentious suddenly become the occasion for major surprising aggravations. Or a partner who in principle is there for us and in theory loves us very very much but in actuality – like last week and the week before that – is constantly remarkably busy, unable to respond to our texts, out with their compelling friends or concentrated on their always extremely demanding job. Or a partner with whom we sit up late at night on many occasions with a pad and paper to hand attempting to determine where the issues are coming from, what is at play and how things might be handled before, baffled and upset, we finally have to retreat to bed a little after 1am feeling fragile and tearful.

But in actuality, it's happening gradually over a long period of time.

In actuality, both men knew nothing about the homeless man,

But in actuality, the town was occupied and ransacked several times during that Thirty Years' War.

Such self-possession might sound denying and sad. Why such miserliness? Modernity was supposed to have liberated us from decorum. We were supposed to have been able to let go of rigmaroles of propriety for the untrammelled callings of our hearts. But slowness does not necessarily need to have anything to do with prudishness or social moors. It can be where we land once we have built up a more profound understanding of the psychology of love. Whatever we may tell ourselves, love is far from being simply all we humans want. However heady and beautiful it might appear from a distance, it is something that may, in actuality, terrify us as much as it delights us, something we are as much tempted to flee as to embrace. Caution is therefore logical. To stand helpless and vulnerable before another human, to hope that they will see us as we are and still care for us, opens us up to a genuine and uncommon risk of devastation.

In actuality, intj females are experts in their fields and know exactly what they're doing.

But in actuality, electrons swarm around that empty space in cloud formations.

In actuality, it's beyond refreshing to see the young couple actually be honest with one another.